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# What is love?-
Here I am, just logged on, went to Friendster and saw a Discussion Board topic asking "What is Love?" Well, short of laughing out loud, I decided to come up with my own theory. Norman should be familliar with the basis of Fadzli's Infamous Theory a.k.a Fadzli's Theorem:
"If the question never states to put the correct answer, then you can write down any answer your heart desires i.e 1 + 1 = 453423432345. Theoretically, it is correct. In practice, I might get skinned by a kindergarten maths teacher."
Yeah so here I go. Trying to tackle Love. Seriously of course.
Love is a type of feeling you get when you get all manners of thoughts and feelings by just looking at that special something. In this case, looking at an attractive male or female, a cute cuddly baby, a bedsheet or even a camera. However today I will discuss about love between 2 people of the opposite sex.
When you first laid eyes on somebody, the first thing that goes to everybody's mind is how attractive the person is. Usually when this happens, a chemical inside the brain is released that initiates waves of pleasure and well-being, at the same time nervousness and stuttering (if the person is attractive. Other than that, it will release adrenaline that will enable you to run faster than Superman). I mean like, unless you're a very very confident person, you're bound to show these symptoms. These feelings are pretty much normal (unless you're Jiao).
Take for example, when I first laid eyes on *blank* my mind totally went blank. Case closed. Anyway, when it comes to love a different type of chemical is released. According to a book I read, this particular chemical is addictive. Once your exposed to these chemicals, any moment spent apart between you and your loved one will result in withdrawal symptoms, such as missing the person and thoughts of dying. The latter is especially strong if the rush of the addictive chemical was ended prematurely i.e break up. This is the reason why some people tend to commit suicide or other dumbfark stuff, just to relieve themselves of the addiction. However in some people, things happen in a relationship that slows down the production on these addictive chemicals, thus making the withdrawal symptoms lighter i.e expecting a break-up to happen due to unforeseen circumstances.
It is also due to these reasons, some people can actually feel better about themselves. For example, singers like Mcfly and Mario write songs about the love, which they can express because they know how love feels. Some people actually feel good when they're in love, and these are the people that are envied the most i.e Me & Fiona Xie or Me & Jeanette Aw. Yes yes actually this was written and researched while in a dream, but let's get back to the topic okay?
Back to the feelings felt while in love.
One of the more mysterious feelings felt in love is how one can feel happy yet sad at the same time, and still feel good about it. Take for example, if your loved one happens to find someone else, you will feel happy for the person, yet absolutely devastated because you were not the one who would be able to give the happiness he/she deserves. Yet you have to accept it. and act like you can accept it. The latter is the hardest part of course. But unless you've had lots of practice (like me) you'll be able to carry it out better than William Hung can act. This particular feeling can be summed up in a quote from the movie Bruce Almighty:
"I want her to be happy, no matter what that means. I want her to find someone who will treat her with all the love she deserved from me. I want her to meet someone who will see her always as I do now..."
Sweet isn't it?
Another one of love's mysteries is how you're willing to sacrifice yourself for your loved one. I remember being asked this question by a best friend of mine:
"If me, yourself and *blank* were caught in a burning plane about to crash with only 2 parachutes, what would you do?"
I replied:
"I'd fix the parachutes on the both of you, push you both out of the plane and wait for the plane to crash."
That might sound noble and all, but that is seriously what I would do. I can't bear to lose my best friend while I'm alive, and the thought of *blank* going before I do is just simply unthinkable. At that moment it may seem the right thing to do, but I do know when the plane is about to crash I would be happy knowing that the 2 most important people in my life would be able to carry on longer.
Okay, so this does not really answer the question "What is love?". But with reference to the abovementioned points, here's my answer:
"Love is simply the undying feeling of attraction, devotion and most important of all, self-sacrifice to another person. Love blurs the line between right and wrong, sanity and insanity, race, language and religion. I believe that a feeling to be felt to attain nirvana is to feel love, and to be loved."
Sadly, not everyone can go through it. Some have found it and let go. Some have found it, but threw it away. Some have found it and never reciprocated.
I hope all of you who had the opportunity to read this reflect on your love life! Love is a magical miracle that no one can predict. It can't be seen but can be felt. It can't be spoken but can be expressed. It can hurt, yet it can heal. Think about it.
the story ends like this;
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